The skeptics trifecta

When I was 30 years old, I wrote down several big physical goals. I achieved one of them a little over a year ago!

I only have 11 weeks to reach my second big one…

I want to be 12% bodyfat when I am 50 years old.

Let’s just say that I am not there so I need to get moving.

That goal and the fact that we will be moving into our new house in a week or so are providing me with a legitimate excuse to buy an exercise machine! That’s right…an exercise machine.

I am very aware that most of the people who buy them actually end up using them for little more than a glorified clothes hangar! I am determined that will not happen to me. I can’t let it. I couldn’t justify the expense!

So, I have begun looking at equipment. What will I realistically use? Which hunk of metal will inspire me to hop on and start furiously pahm-ping my mah-scles (said in an Ah-nold voice) every time I look at it?

I stopped by a fitness store and started asking questions.

The guy asked me how I came to visit his store. I told him that accidentally drove by his store a few months ago while looking for another store that was having a going out of business sale.

He then showed me a really nice piece of equipment. It had better be nice with a price tag of over $4,000!

I looked at a few more pieces of equipment and asked a few more questions. Since I was the only person in the store, I had his undivided attention. I learned quite a bit from him.

I then asked him what this one bracket was for. He said, “That is the ‘Oh, God’ stop.”

I immediately understood his description because I have had one of those moments myself except I didn’t have a safety stop. I told him the story. (You can read about it here.)

I began sensing that his incredulity was rapidly mutating into full scale cynicism so I asked, “Do you believe me?”

“No. Are you in the fitness industry?”

It took me a few seconds before I figured out what he meant.

I was asking about the story concerning my weightlifting accident. Not only did he not believe that (“probably just temporarily collapsed your lungs”), he didn’t believe me about how I came to visit his store!

Since he was so steeped in “rational” unbelief, I decided to just pile it on. I told him how God healed my wife of 3rd stage limes disease.

“It could be a false positive.”

Right! Complete with extremely painful symptoms.

He hit the skeptics trifecta!

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Negotiating the close

Our realtor gave us some bad news today…

Someone broke into the house that we are buying and stole some of the contractors tools! He won’t be able to finish the ceiling in the master bedroom until Friday!

My realtor wanted to know what I thought about that?

“I don’t like it!”

negotiated

How about he leaves the bedroom ceiling alone (I am going to change it anyway!) and finishes everything else perfectly by Wednesday and we close on Thursday?

She delivered my message to the current owners who then talked with the contractor and we are not going to close by Thursday!

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Just win-win, baby!

We should be moving into our new house this next week.

My wife informed me that she doesn’t think that our existing couches are “not contemporary” enough for our new home.

That presents several problems…

First, shopping for furniture is a huge task. Where do you go? Which brand is good? How well is it made? Etc., etc. The amount of research that I would have to do before I could shell out a thousand dollars with some degree of confidence that I wasn’t just throwing it away is overwhelming!

The second problem is that my wife enjoys spending money! She says that it would make her feel good to give a furniture store their 400% markup just so she could say it is new!

I am at the opposite end of the spectrum. I don’t inherently like spending money. I really like getting a great deal though. I like to find people who have decided that cannot live without the latest, greatest, newest and finest (“what everybody is getting these days!”). I then offer to buy their “old, outdated” really nice, barely used stuff that they paid WAY too much for not too long ago.

So, I retreated to familiar territory…ground that I know well…an area where I have experienced a reasonable degree of success in the past…Craig’s List!

After all, I found the two couches that we have used for the past three years there and they are still nice. They just look “too formal” for her taste.

It took me about an hour to find what I was looking for…

Barely used, high end couches in a fabric that she will love…Here is the ad.

My wife hates buying used stuff but she agreed to go with me to look at them.

As we drove up, she liked the $500-$700,000 neighborhood! She liked the house that they were in.

Then she looked at the couches themselves and I guess she liked them. I say that because she went down to the basement to look at an oriental rug…without me!

When we got home, I went online to see where this particular brand is sold. It turns out that the high end furniture store with the “in home design consultants” across the street from our apartment sells them.

I talked to one of the sales associates and learned that this couch and love-seat START at $3,000! We are paying $550!

She won’t admit it for awhile, but I think I did good with this one!

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There, I said it!

Today was the day…

I finally confronted my son. I was as ready as I was ever going to be. There was nothing left but to do it.

So, I did.

I talked to him about the four levels of obedience (obedience from the heart, obedience, disobedience and rebellion) and where he is on the scale.

I talked to him about our family’s values (not just mine) and where he has abandoned them.

I talked to him about the opportunities for growth that are available to him.

He seemed like he was listening. Time will tell…

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God answers prayer

I still haven’t confronted my son…

He worked at The Bonefish Grill last night. He is working again tonight.

This major confrontation has been delayed for since Monday and I am REALLY glad!

Why do I say that?

On Monday night, I avoided biting his head off. I spent Tuesday and Wednesday dreading (no exaggeration!) the very real damage that might occur in our relationship. On Thursday, it occurred to me that he wasn’t doing these things to purposely agitate me and my heart started breaking for how discouraged he is.

Today, everything became clear. I know exactly what I am going to say and how I am going to say it to him. I actually believe that God intended for this to be a good thing for both him and me!

Stay tuned…

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Monday ain’t lookin’ good right now

We are supposed to close on the house next Monday.

Today we took the “final” walk through. We were supposed to look for any minor flaws that needed touching up.

Let me summarize the results quickly…

I’ll be amazed if we close on Monday!

The walls need to be repainted, drywall needed to be sanded, doors need to be hung, etc., etc.

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Big A pushes my buttons again!

I was all set to have the big confrontation with my son last night…

He didn’t show up. He went to talk to a man about a job and ended up going roller skating with the church youth group.

It was probably just as well. It still would have been one of those “if you want to live in my house, this is how it is going to be. If you don’t like it, find somewhere else to live” talks!

Those type of conversations can only go one of two ways…

So, I wasn’t too upset that he was gone all night.

When I woke up this morning, I felt like I was doing much better. I was actually calming down to the point where I could imagine talking to him in a civil manner.

Then, he slept in until 10:30!!!

That boy, I’m telling you…

I called Bean in Dallas and Kimba in Nashville and asked them to pray for me! I need help!

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Just smart enough to keep my mouth shut

I avoided a disaster yesterday…

My son came back to Kansas to find a summer job and save up money for the next year of college.

Today, he slept in until 12:00!

I have a very difficult time sitting passively and watching someone let opportunity slip by, especially when it is one of my children!

“What should I do? I mean, He’s 19 years old. He’s an adult!…

However, I can’t sit idly by and let him slip into being a bum!…

Why did he sleep so late? I’ll bet he was up late last night on that stupid Facebook!!!”

The more I thought, the angrier I became.

He wasn’t home when I got home from work. He was at The Prayer Room reading his Bible and studying Physics. I want him to read his Bible. I like that he wants to study his Physics. However, I don’t like either one of them when YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE FINDING A JOB!!!

So I vented to my wife. Although she was much calmer, she pretty much agreed with me.

When he came home a few hours later, he showed us a picture he had drawn of a girl’s eye…

He wanted to know what I thought!

I was thinking, “What do I think about you spending the day drawing some girl’s eye when you should have been looking for a job? What the heck are you thinking????”

But, I said nothing.

Thankfully, I had enough sense to realize that if I said anything while in that state of mind, we would not have much a relationship after I finished. I decided that it would be best to just go to bed early.

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It is looking so nice!

Those three hours that we spent figuring out how to lay the stone on the fireplace sure were worth it!

I stopped by the house to take a peek at the progress and that fireplace looks so nice!

The new window is finally in the basement and it looks nice!

The contractore put a bookshelf all around the finished side of the basement where the concrete block joins the wood and that looks really nice!

The back deck has been completely rebuilt and it looks…you guessed it, really nice!

It’s a little strange to think that we are going to be moving in a week…

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Happy Father’s Day

I’m not sure that I like Father’s Day…

It seems to me that it replaces a very real moral obligation (“honor your father and your mother”) with a cheap cultural imitation…a way to soothe a guilty conscience.

I realize for many it is the only time that children give any honor to their father so I suppose that it is better than nothing. It just seems so artificial!

To give you an example, my second daughter, Kimba called to wish me a “Happy Father’s Day!” That was followed by several seconds of dead air time on the phone…

She had done her cultural duty! Now what?

We ended up having a good conversation, as we usually do, but…hopefully you get my point.

Anyway, off the soapbox…

My wife’s parent’s stopped by on their way back to California and since Grammie doesn’t cook anymore, Bunch decided to make her Dad a nice pasta dinner! That food was good!

Hmmm…

Maybe I should take back what I wrote earlier…

Oh, what about my children?

They didn’t cook anything for me!

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